Today we’re featuring an old magazine article written for us by The Wedding Speech Guru. We initially featured it in issue 4 way back in 2014 and then we celebrated it in our special issue in 2016. It’s a brilliant, useful and timeless article. Show it to your dad, your groom and the best man. They will thank you (and us) when their speech goes down a storm…
Over to Robin:
Being at a picture perfect wedding often feels like being in a feature film. You have a stunning setting, a gorgeous leading lady, a dashing leading man and at the end, they walk off into the sunset together. But a wedding without good speeches is like a film in which you know what happens but don’t fully understand how or why. The speeches provide the backstory, allowing us to appreciate and celebrate how they fell in love.
Great speeches can make the difference between a wedding that feels like a straight-to-DVD horror flick to an Oscar-winning Rom-Com. Here’s what each speech needs to do:
The father of the bride needs to speak for the bride’s whole family, expressing what she means to them. He must talk about his daughter as a character, what she was like when she was young, how she has grown, and how proud he is of the woman she has become today.
If the bride is not speaking herself, the groom’s speech is the only one addressed from the point of view of the stars of the show: couple themselves. He can tell the story of how they met and pay tribute to his bride. This is the story that everyone wants to hear.
The best man’s speech is often misunderstood. His job is not to rip the groom to shreds but to commend him to the guests, many of whom may not know him that well. As the groom’s best friend he is uniquely qualified to provide an insight into what makes him tick. This doesn’t mean that he can’t poke fun at the groom – that’s what friends do – but the main purpose is to celebrate both the groom’s character and his good fortune in meeting the love of his life.
Follow these rules and, as the couple walk into the night to begin their married life together, the wedding guests, like appreciative film critics, will celebrate the momentous moment it is.
Wedding Speech Guru, which is run by author and screenwriter, Robin Bayley, is a personalised coaching service for anyone making a wedding speech. If you need help with the writing, editing or delivery of your speech, contact Robin on +44 7985 919856, firstname.lastname@example.org, via weddingspeechguru.co.uk or on Twitter @weddspeechguru